Thursday, 25 March 2010
Let who you are shine through every sentence you write.
Sunday, 21 March 2010
For most of history, Anonymous was a woman.
The Woman's mission is not to enhance the masculine spirit, but to express the feminine; hers is not to preserve a man made world, but to create a human world by the infusion of the feminine element into all of its activities - Margaret Thatcher.
Recent events in my personal life have led me to question the significance of femininity in this modern life we inhabit. It seems that the world is now filled with women who are solely focused on the next step on the career ladder, completely obsessed with maintaining a stern exterior and utterly devoted to not showing any signs of weakness. Even though such women will no doubt be successful in achieving the goals they set for themselves, they seem to who have lost contact with the glorious femininity that encompasses their natural beings and differentiates them from the other.
Yet what exactly is weakness? One may define weakness as being overly emotional, perhaps not being able to make decisions based on reason or rational - but allowing oneself to be ruled by the emotions of the heart. Alternatively, another may define weakness as allowing others to affect one's direction, causing indecisiveness and vulnerability for deciding the correct path to follow for one's own future.
However we may wish to define it, I cannot help but wonder why femininity has become such a problem. In my opinion, femininity is not immovable. As with anything, it evolves with time and is reflective of the modern state. To be feminine today, is not the same as what it meant fifty or sixty years ago.
If we were to look back on women in the 1950s we may not understand why their domesticity was celebrated. We do not allow ourselves to stop to consider the lack of opportunities for them, for education or for work – but merely choose to see them as housewives. Yet if we were to consider the strength and support they provided as the 'angels of the house' - we would in fact consider them to be entirely strong admirable women who ruled their households with a precision and organisation that we can only envy in this modern world ruled by convenience.
In today’s society, and in particular when comparing one’s feminine self with others, it is strikingly obvious that at times femininity is not a positive attribute to have. Using flowering language, spending time on perfecting your look from clothes to hair to makeup, or from simply being friendly with a constant smile – all seem to shout weakness. As if in some obscure manner, being courteous and considerate automatically causes one to be weak-minded and naïve. Since when has maintaining natural feminine grace resulted in women losing their intellect or reason?
As a young woman focused entirely on my career and future, I consider it a blessing to be able to maintain courtesy and consideration in life. Without wanting to sound materialistic or shallow as some may say – I take pride in my appearance, and consider it an important tool in demonstrating my own strength of character. No single person can judge another life and consider it menial or unimportant. The fact remains, that in today’s society, it is the successful balance of the workplace and family that enables women of the twenty first century to be the strongest women the world has seen.
Role models such as Hilary Clinton and the deceased Benazir Bhutto in the political world, to literary figures like Mary Wollstonecraft to Virginia Woolf or even those millions of unknown women who continuously strive to perfect the lives of themselves and their families – the twenty first century is the ideal place for femininity. It allows successful women to balance their emotions, their goals and principles wonderfully. In such a dynamic, fast moving world – it bodes well to maintain composure in the midst of chaos in order to be truly happy in both career and personal life. It is an attribute that is innate for me, and one that I am proud to harbor.


